Shy Guys

Well Hello World !

It’s been quite a while since I last posted, but this time I’m here to stay! This blog is just one for me to spurt any nonsense that pops into my head. So stick around and enjoy the ride ^^ ~~~

The topic for today, Shy Guys!

Hmm, now this is a topic I’m sure many of you have come across. Whether you have a crush on them or you simply don’t know how to approach them. There are many different scenarios~~ but here I’ll post my prime example!

Just like many other women, we have to admit our species can be quite complex. Yes, though we do state we are ‘simple minded creatures’. We must admit that we can be quite a complex catch (even if you do say so to yourself xD)

Men on the other hand, well … that’s something none of us will ever quite understand. They are neither simple nor complex. But before I divulge any further about our differences; let me slide back onto the topic of such sweet men.

Now they are cute. They are sweet. They are downright adorable … at least, that’s our first perspective on them right ?~ And that’s when they turn the tables. From a friend you barely understand, they deem themselves a target. Curiosity kills the cat, so what is it we girls are likely to do? …well, that all depends on our aim.

The thing about shy men is; that we don’t quite know how to deal with them. Do we continue with our lively-bubbly act, or do we slow our personality down to accommodate this new friend. Who knows? It’s something I am still trying to work out. To put it simply, I’ll explain my example. Now I have a friend …(yes, I literally mean a friend in this case x3)

And to make it tougher, yes … he is a shy ‘Asian’ friend. We all know how different they can be to crack huh ?! xD

So he’s a nice friend. He’s funny. Quite smart and damn right handsome too! But, he does seem like the very antisocial type. Lingers around quite often, but then again … I am a very talkative person. So I doubt anyone would find to hard to approach me ~~~

He doesn’t seem to speak very much to other people. So maybe pulling him into a group discussion could help ?? Idk …I do feel it may force him to hide in his shell a little more …something I would care to avoid. So how exactly is it we help them become more ‘known’ to our western world? I’m sure England would be a big impact to anyone new …the drastic change and craziness we prevail …heck, its all part of the fun! And yet something so very scary to newcomers ~~~

Here’s my tactic: Step One) Engage them in a one-to-one conversation. Ask them out for a coffee and just settle the score. Drop a small compliment to make them feel at ease.

Step Two) Remind yourself to find out a little about their environment. Are they new in the country? Well, then where from? State that you’re interested and get them to tell you about it.

Step Three) …Something I have yet to do …. Pull them into a group discussion with your friends. Ask them for their input! It all sounds a little off I admit ….but they sure well worked for me.

While I’m still on topic, I must state. If these don’t work, then don’t worry! Its better to just be yourself and hope the guy understands your aim to gain their friendship. But if you’re here because you have a thing for a shy guy, well … I have one word of advice.

‘Men are men before they are Asian’ ~~~

Hope this nonsense baffle helped and be sure to stay tuned for more random spurts! ^^ 

Korean Confessions

Korean Couples, I have to admit are quite the Cute Bundle! Just like us Westerners, they must obviously like the other person to then date them. But, that’s not what I wish to talk about on this topic. In fact, I want to expand on HOW Korean couples seemingly get together, in a way that …I would have to say is quite unique ^^

First off, if you had/have a partner right now. You’ll understand what I mean when I say, sometimes….you just can’t get enough of the other person! You just want to wake up and see them first off. Whether face to face, or a simple text saying ‘Morninggg!’ No matter how ‘Grown Up’ a person may wish to be. There’s no avoiding the typical ‘cheesiness’ that comes with being a couple~~ and you have to just love it!

This is something that is similar with all couples. Whether English, American, Korean or Martian! It’s just a Universal Trait. (even the stern guys in K-dramas soften up eventually right …) xD

The fact is, being part of a couple is just a nice spin on life. So keep up the niceties! (I can’t help my typical terms….heck, I’m British!) -_-

Now to get onto the main topic, its how Korean couples come to be that I want to talk about. From K-dramas (as you can tell, I love them), to personal experiences ~~ It seems that Korean’s put a whole lot more effort than we do. Now I won’t stereotype and say all, but most girls/guys that wish to confess do it in such a sweet manner, that it makes us swoon. (Well, at least when through the screen). They put such an effort into writing a ‘Confession Letter ? …hmm, maybe Love Letter is more suited’. The fact how they put their heart into it, its just too unbearable for the Western eye. Don’t get me wrong! It’s such a sweet, cute, aspirating thing to do. But I am arguing on the two perspectives here. British and Korean right? (It’s my blog…I’ll do what I will) <3

Now if a guy on your campus approached you, or girl for any guys that are reading this. It would be hella awkward if they handed you a letter, and walked away. That’s if they don’t stand and wait for your reaction. In British terms, what is the poor person meant to do. Open it right before them and having to reject this unknown person. Cause that’s how it usually works, the receiver tends to have no idea who this being is. Yet in Korea, this is just how things work. If you like a person, you don’t just go and ask them out! Are you crazy?! …Instead you make them feel awkward and confess through a letter …-_-

Personally, I admit. I have been through such an ordeal before. The reason I say ordeal? Simply because at the time, I was free of the Hallyu wave and any such Asian influence. I was as British as I could be, and loved all things English (hey, I knew nothing else at the time …don’t give me that look) T.T

So when I was approached by a transfer student whom I didn’t know. I was simply awestruck o_o ! This was a boy who had joined my year group, and had not a word to say to me. Well, that is until a few months passed and he handed me his confession. I couldn’t do anything but nod awkwardly and walk away. Leaving the poor boy standing alone in the corridor. But I did what all else would and simply snuck the letter into my bag. Forgetting about it till I emptied it out the following weekend.

Damn did I miss getting to know such a sweet person though. I hadn’t realized until I read the letter, that this boy would be leaving the country again and wanted to know if I liked him too. By the time I read it, he’d already gone T.T …ahh I have to admit, life sucks eggs sometimes ~~

So it goes to show, our cultures have such a big difference. But that doesn’t go to show that we have one up on the other. In fact, I have to say I love them both. Koreans, and asia in general have just a sweeter, more emotional way of showing they like someone. Korean Confessions win hands down on this one!!

Let me know your stories and views on the comments below, I’d love to hear from you ! ^^

(ahh, and don’t worry…Onew up there ^ is still as single as can be. Looks cute though huh!)

British vs Korean

Hii there! This is my first ever attempt to write and post up a blog, and it’s all on a whim…. So wish me luck!

This topic is based on British Schools VS Korean Schools and there cultures. As we all know and love. Korean students have a preppy stamina when it comes to uniforms. Just like the Japanese, Korean students strive to look their absolute best in the cutest, and most chic school uniforms. Whether it be a sailor sort of outfit, or simply a uniform the students themselves design.  I just love that!

If only here in England we were given such a choice!….though I dare not think what we may come up with….

On another point, Korean teachers (at least from what I know), seem very interested in their student’s social life. The fact that they are there every step of the way, helping their students overcome every barrier. Just like Mr Kang from Dream High (yes, so I’m a fan xD) ~~ But it goes to show that perseverance can knock us up a notch!

When thinking about it here in British terms, many of us are so used to having teachers who forget about us as soon as they hit the sack, that we’d find it slightly ‘awkward’  if they were to then turn their care and attention towards us. In fact, I have a feeling many would regard them as ‘queer’ -_- ~~ (though this is a Korean trait we definitely need!)

Okay, before I end this gigantic opinionated essay… There’s one more Korean trait I have to say I absolutely adore! It’s how Korean students, regardless of their gender are so in love with one another.  (and I mean this as friends…if your a kpop fan, then you’ll understand!) They seem to have this ‘comfort’  that we don’t really see here in England and its students. I mean, just how do they become so close o_o ~~

I know, your probably thinking ‘My friends and I have that’. But do you really? If so, then congratulations! Your one step ahead of the British Society ^^ ~~ What makes me love this bond so much is that Korean’s seem to find it a second nature. The way two guys can walk hand in hand, even though their just best buds. How they can then cuddle and hug when all other guys would cringe at the thought. I think it’s probably one of the most sweetest and loving things. Just like how Jaejoong and Yunho once were <3

To end this super long post, I give props to Korean Schools and their culture. They give the basis of foundation to create such a society with beautiful values. Something I believe the rest of the worlds needs to look into. So for this post, Korea wins hands down! ^^